For some people the funeral ritual might seem outdated and unnecessary. There are many reasons why for your immediate and future grief that emotionally family and friends need to have a public goodbye for their loved one.
When we don’t have a funeral we are telling people that we do not want them to support us during our time of grief and many people who have chosen not to have a funeral service, either because their loved one said that they didn’t want a fuss or because of budget or any other reason, have found that they have not had anyone call them, write to them, visit them or even acknowledge the death of their loved one. We have been told by people who have experienced this that it is exceptionally distressing and it prolonged their grief as they were unable to discuss this with their friends.
A funeral service can be in a church, outside on the beach, at a graveside, in your backyard or in any other location that is suitable for your loved one. We at Blue Mountains Funerals would like to work with you to create a meaningful celebration that may or may not be traditional, it might even be a small and private ceremony to celebrate your loved one.
The reasons we have a funeral can be best summed up by J William Worden in his “4 Stages of Mourning”.
The funeral allows us to:
If you would like to plan your own goodbye please see the resources available at http://www.yourgoodbye.com/
In addition, please watch this video or download the “Your Story” book to start planning a celebration.
It was such an emotional time for us but your professionalism and compassion helped enormously.
I haven’t been through this process before but it wasn’t upsetting as both Julie and Jo gave us such support and nothing was too much trouble.
I would definitely recommend you after our experience.
“The team, especially Asha and Tom, are wonderful people to work with. They provided professional, compassionate guidance through the funeral planning process, and my dad’s service was exactly how we envisioned
“Not only were you all very patient but showed compassion in this difficult time. Tom we thank you and all your wonderful staff. The women looked so beautiful on the day and we were all touched at how everything fell into place. We think Dad would have been honoured.“
“Your professionalism, graciousness, love, comfort & support show to us at this most difficult time of losing our beautiful mother will never be forgotten. Every detail was handled with perfection, everything was very well co-ordinated in a very tight timeframe.”
“Words cannot express our thanks and gratitude to you. You kindness and assistance made the day a beautiful memory for us to reflect back on.“
“The funeral service that you put together was absolutely perfect and was exactly what mum would have wanted. Please know that if I ever need a funeral director again you will be my first call.“