Dealing with grief

Everyone handles death and grief in their own way.

Coping with death and grief is a very personal journey and here is no right or wrong way to go about it.  People can experience intense emotions and everyone will react differently to loss. It is important to know that there are always people who are there to listen and help (see support services).

The grieving process

Grieving is an important part of the healing process after the death of a loved one. Everyone reacts in their own unique way. People may have feelings of sadness, anger, denial, guilt, relief, fear, loneliness and depression. Whilst sometimes overwhelming and bewildering, they are all very natural and common emotions.

The grieving process has often been described and broken down into a number of stages. While every person will deal with the loss of a loved one in their own unique way, below are some of the more common reactions and emotions to loss.


Shock and disbelief at the news of losing a loved one is a very common reaction, especially of the death was sudden or unexpected. Talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings with the people close to you can often help.

Emotional Release

It is common to feel waves of emotion and it is important to acknowledge these feelings. Everyone will feel different things and different times in the grieving process. Letting go of your emotions and expressing your feelings is a positive part of the healing process.

Sadness and depression

Feeling sad and even depressed after the loss of a loved one is familiar to many people. You may feel lonely, isolated and disinterested the world around you. It is important to know that there are people who will listen, support and help you through this time. Please see out list of support services for more information.


Reminiscing on the good times and moments shared with your passed loved one can be another stage in the grieving process. It can be comforting to share these stories and feelings with others around you and help you to feel like they will never be forgotten or far from your thoughts, even though they are not physically present.


Survivor guilt or feelings of helplessness can be overwhelming. Thoughts of “why them?” or “If only I’d been there for them more” or “If only I hadn’t let him go there” can constantly play on your mind. It can be helpful to talk to someone about these thoughts and feelings. Please see out list of support services for more information.

Anger and aggression

Feelings of anger and aggression are another way people can cope with grief. Finding someone to talk to about this and getting your anger out (maybe through a physical activity or exercise) can be helpful.

Physical strain

Losing a loved one can also be quite physically taxing. It is important to take the time to look after your own health and well-being. Making sure you eat properly, exercise and getting a good night sleep will all aid your physical well-being.  A visit to your doctor for a check-up and a chat might also help.

Time aids recovery

Everyone will grieve in their own way. There is no time limit or expected way to cope. Acknowledging your feelings, talking to family and friends or a health care professional can all help you through the process.

Grief support

Blue Mountains Funerals can put you in touch with professional counsellors and support groups in your area, which may be able to help you. If you would like assistance in this area, please do not hesitate to contact us on 02 4751 6166.

Helping to cope with grief

Coping with grief can prove a difficult time. Here are a few practical steps that you might find useful when dealing with the loss of a loved one.

  • Stay in contact with family and friends – do not isolate yourself
  • Remain active and plan social events ahead of time so you have things to look forward to
  • Take some time out and go on a relax holiday
  • Visit family or friends out of town to break up your regular routine
  • Meet new people by joining a social club or organisation
  • Volunteer at an organisation
  • Start a diary to help you express your thoughts and feelings and help you to follow and understand your journey through the grieving process
  • Express your yourself – talk to a friend, relative or counsellor about your feelings
  • Don’t put added pressure on yourself – delay making major life changes at this time such as changing jobs or selling a house
  • Join a bereavement support group

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June 2021

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March 2021

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September 2020

Louise and the staff at Blue Mountains funerals were caring and professional, which really helped myself and my family at this time of grief. My mother had a pre-paid and pre-planned funeral arrangement with clear instructions and choices that the staff had on record which made following our mothers wishes comforting and easier at the time. Thank you to all staff for your professional support

August 2020

Our Mother died under the trying circumstances of Covid19 restrictions. The funeral we had planned for her could therefore not proceed. The staff at Blue Mountains Funerals were exemplary in their care, compassion, empathy and support as well as practicality as we organised a virtual loving farewell for our mother. We have been overwhelmed by the feedback from our family and friends. Much of the credit needs to go to Blue Mountains funerals namely Louise, Rose and Asha for making the virtual option real and personal.

May 2020

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April 2020

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April 2020

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L. Batty, Glenbrook
February 2020

The staff at Blue Mountains Funerals were absolutely wonderful! They went above and beyond to ensure my mother’s funeral service was personalised to her. During a time of immense grief, you really need someone who understands what the family needs, and the staff of Blue Mountains Funerals really delivered in terms of service and compassion. Highly recommended!

August 2019

Thank you for all you have done for us.  We did your appreciate your input into our mother’s funeral.  You displayed love and concern for us as a family, thank you.

The staff of Blue Mountains Funerals were so sympathetic and sensitive to our needs both at Emu Plains when we visited for my sister to view our mother and on the day of the funeral.  They were ready and on hand when we needed to ask for advice on anything.

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October 2017

“Thank you and the team for all the assistance and genuine thoughtfulness you gave me and the family throughout Joy’s funeral. We’re truly blessed by choosing you guys!”

Anne F
November 2017

Not only were you all very patient but showed compassion in this difficult time. Tom we thank you and all your wonderful staff. The women looked so beautiful on the day and we were all touched at how everything fell into place. We think Dad would have been honoured.

Marie Walcott
July 2016

“Your professionalism, graciousness, love, comfort & support show to us at this most difficult time of losing our beautiful mother will never be forgotten. Every detail was handled with perfection, everything was very well co-ordinated in a very tight timeframe.”

April 2016

Words cannot express our thanks and gratitude to you. You kindness and assistance made the day a beautiful memory for us to reflect back on.

January 2016

The funeral service that you put together was absolutely perfect and was exactly what mum would have wanted. Please know that if I ever need a funeral director again you will be my first call.

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