Dealing with grief

Everyone handles death and grief in their own way.

Coping with death and grief is a very personal journey and here is no right or wrong way to go about it.  People can experience intense emotions and everyone will react differently to loss. It is important to know that there are always people who are there to listen and help (see support services).

The grieving process

Grieving is an important part of the healing process after the death of a loved one. Everyone reacts in their own unique way. People may have feelings of sadness, anger, denial, guilt, relief, fear, loneliness and depression. Whilst sometimes overwhelming and bewildering, they are all very natural and common emotions.

The grieving process has often been described and broken down into a number of stages. While every person will deal with the loss of a loved one in their own unique way, below are some of the more common reactions and emotions to loss.

Shock

Shock and disbelief at the news of losing a loved one is a very common reaction, especially of the death was sudden or unexpected. Talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings with the people close to you can often help.

Emotional Release

It is common to feel waves of emotion and it is important to acknowledge these feelings. Everyone will feel different things and different times in the grieving process. Letting go of your emotions and expressing your feelings is a positive part of the healing process.

Sadness and depression

Feeling sad and even depressed after the loss of a loved one is familiar to many people. You may feel lonely, isolated and disinterested the world around you. It is important to know that there are people who will listen, support and help you through this time. Please see out list of support services for more information.

Reminiscing

Reminiscing on the good times and moments shared with your passed loved one can be another stage in the grieving process. It can be comforting to share these stories and feelings with others around you and help you to feel like they will never be forgotten or far from your thoughts, even though they are not physically present.

Guilt

Survivor guilt or feelings of helplessness can be overwhelming. Thoughts of “why them?” or “If only I’d been there for them more” or “If only I hadn’t let him go there” can constantly play on your mind. It can be helpful to talk to someone about these thoughts and feelings. Please see out list of support services for more information.

Anger and aggression

Feelings of anger and aggression are another way people can cope with grief. Finding someone to talk to about this and getting your anger out (maybe through a physical activity or exercise) can be helpful.

Physical strain

Losing a loved one can also be quite physically taxing. It is important to take the time to look after your own health and well-being. Making sure you eat properly, exercise and getting a good night sleep will all aid your physical well-being.  A visit to your doctor for a check-up and a chat might also help.

Time aids recovery

Everyone will grieve in their own way. There is no time limit or expected way to cope. Acknowledging your feelings, talking to family and friends or a health care professional can all help you through the process.

Grief support

Blue Mountains Funerals can put you in touch with professional counsellors and support groups in your area, which may be able to help you. If you would like assistance in this area, please do not hesitate to contact us on 02 4751 6166.

Helping to cope with grief

Coping with grief can prove a difficult time. Here are a few practical steps that you might find useful when dealing with the loss of a loved one.

  • Stay in contact with family and friends – do not isolate yourself
  • Remain active and plan social events ahead of time so you have things to look forward to
  • Take some time out and go on a relax holiday
  • Visit family or friends out of town to break up your regular routine
  • Meet new people by joining a social club or organisation
  • Volunteer at an organisation
  • Start a diary to help you express your thoughts and feelings and help you to follow and understand your journey through the grieving process
  • Express your yourself – talk to a friend, relative or counsellor about your feelings
  • Don’t put added pressure on yourself – delay making major life changes at this time such as changing jobs or selling a house
  • Join a bereavement support group

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January 2017

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April 2016

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July 2016

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April 2016

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